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The Infection of Grief

By | January 23rd, 2015 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

He was young . . . strong . . . incredibly healthy. Everything had been done correctly and with great care. The deep, jagged gash in his leg had been cleaned and sutured, bandaged to ward against the entrance of germs, the possibility of infection. Yet here he lay, his leg fiery red, swollen with […]

My House is Haunted

By | January 14th, 2015 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

Just in case anyone cares, my house is haunted.  I know that may seem a little disturbing to some of you, especially if you were planning a visit (which is highly unlikely), but I felt the need to forewarn anyone who might take it into their heads to arrive unexpectedly.  (Please don’t.) And how, you […]

Whose Body Shall This Be?

By | January 8th, 2015 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

Spoiler alert. This is an educational blog post. If you are opposed to gleaning new information or have a fear of learning, especially where after death matters are concerned, do not proceed. If, on the other hand, you or someone you know has trust issues or no remaining family, then this is information you need. […]


By | December 31st, 2014 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

It is Christmas Day night and my brood is gathering for our traditional meal of Christmas Eve leftovers, after which we will open packages, turning the Christmas card scene in my living room into something resembling the aftermath of a tornado. My little one and her husband have just arrived, her brother and his crew […]

The Gift of Memory

By | December 23rd, 2014 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

I have a Christmas tree . . . well, to be more precise, I have seven. There’s the one in my daughter’s room that is all silver and white with ornaments we’ve had ever since we decided she needed her own tree. There’s the one in my son’s room that at one time belonged to […]

The Changing of Tradition

By | December 18th, 2014 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

It is December 25, 2009. My mother-in-law is standing before me, waiting expectantly to see if I like the gift she has carefully selected for me. But I can’t give her the enthusiastic response she wants. I don’t want to be there. I don’t want to be with them, or with anyone else for that […]

Does it Ever Quit Hurting?

By | December 11th, 2014 | 2 Comments | Posted under: Uncategorized

I don’t know why my eyes focused on her, but I watched her through most of the Service of Remembrance. Although she was seated with several others, she seemed to be alone, and as the service progressed I could see her physically struggling to maintain what little composure she had left. At times her body […]

Don’t Judge My Grief

By | December 4th, 2014 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

Through sheer will-power she had managed to get ready, forced herself to leave her house and drive, of all places, to the funeral home to order more Christmas ornaments. Her son’s name would be on them, his dates of birth and death also engraved there. His death had been, and still was, devastating. Life had […]

It is Better to Remain Silent . . .

By | November 19th, 2014 | Leave a comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

. . . and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt—at least that was Abraham Lincoln’s take on the matter of speaking without thought or knowledge or both.  Unfortunately, we as human beings often have a need to say something, especially when we find ourselves in an uncomfortable or […]

Take the Time

By | November 13th, 2014 | 1 Comment | Posted under: Uncategorized

There are those times when, for whatever reason, I end up alone at the funeral home . . . alone meaning I am the only living, breathing human being in the place. Granted, I generally have company, but we are rarely in the same room and if we are, they are extremely quiet, minding their […]