The Light In The Window

Posted on August 16th, 2017
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There are nights when darkness falls and the stars scatter themselves about the sky and I’m still plodding away at my desk because the day has run amok and the night is all I have left to accomplish something.  Anything.  By that point I’m not too picky. On this particular day the boys had come […]

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Grief Holes

Posted on August 9th, 2017
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About a hundred years ago, when we lived on Carrington Street, I decided I wanted a rose bed.  I’d done my homework and knew what I needed, the first step being the actual bed.  So I talked with Dave Hayes who headed our grave crew at the time and asked if he might, on a […]

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A Time To Mourn

Posted on August 2nd, 2017
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I opened my email on a Sunday afternoon to find one from a business friend of mine, odd timing to say the least since he never emailed on weekends.  But the subject line caught my attention far quicker than the 11:11 AM time stamp – “Loss of my son . . .” He falls into […]

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Groundhog Day

Posted on July 26th, 2017
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If you’ve seen the movie “Groundhog Day” then you can skip this paragraph and the next one and go straight to the analogy beginning in paragraph three.  If you’ve never seen the movie, or it’s been a while, or you just wanna see how I spin it, then I would recommend continuing.  To summarize (for […]

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Pat and Becky

Posted on July 20th, 2017
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Every once in a while, I venture down to Florence, Alabama, and when I go I always pass the house that once belonged to Arthur Patrick and Rebecca O’Kelly Rogers, my great uncle and aunt on my mother’s side.  It was a small, white frame house, surrounded by the fields that Uncle Pat farmed for […]

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And So It Ends

Posted on July 12th, 2017
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I have written this in my head at least a thousand times over the last month, a snippet here, a paragraph there, but I never got very far because, if I ever finished it, then it would be real.  If I didn’t there was always hope something might change. But come Saturday morning, July 15, […]

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Through No Fault of Their Own

Posted on July 5th, 2017
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I blamed the Bunny Bread man.  If he hadn’t parked where he did, she would have seen the oncoming traffic.  If she had seen the oncoming traffic, she wouldn’t have pulled out.  If she hadn’t pulled out, he wouldn’t have hit her.  And if he hadn’t hit her, she wouldn’t have died. He called the […]

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The Guilt of Feeling Guilty

Posted on June 28th, 2017
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It was late in the evening.  As best I remember, the sun had set and I was at home when my cell phone rang.  The appointed keeper of the funeral home phones was calling to give me a number . . . a number that belonged to a very distraught individual who was presently standing […]

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Cleaning and Scrubbing

Posted on June 21st, 2017
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“Cleaning and scrubbing can wait ‘till tomorrow, for babies grow up, we’ve learned to our sorrow.  So quiet down cobwebs.  Dust, go to sleep.  I’m rocking my baby, and babies don’t keep.” I have always loved that poem, especially when my little ones were little.  It was like some random poet was giving me permission […]

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Happy Father’s Day, Dad

Posted on June 14th, 2017
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Sunday morning ministers across the nation will mount their pulpits to address the fathers in attendance.  They will encourage them to assume or continue to fill their leadership roles in the family.  They will remind them that they are the heads of their respective households, the spiritual guardians and the providers of all necessities—and that […]

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